Perhaps the biggest piece of baggage a person brings into marriage is their bundle of expectations. Each person has an idea of what their home life, their parenting, their sex life, and their responsibilities should be like. Problems develop when couples assume the other person shares their expectations: A husband may expect his wife to balance a home and career like his mother did. A wife may expect her husband to fix things around the house. When expectations are unclear, unhealthy, unspoken, or unmet, both spouses can feel neglected, frustrated, or just plain angry. And often, couples don’t even…