Emotional Health

Toxic relationships, self-care, personal growth, boundaries, emotional health.

Two Morning Routines that Boost Productivity for the Whole Day

Note: This post first appeared in 2019 but has been updated.   Everyone has a morning routine. The question is, is yours helping you get a good start or is it hijacking your day? In the words of Tim Ferris, “If you win the morning, you win the day.” A good morning routine will increase your energy, mood, performance and productivity, giving you a sense of control over your life.    Because life is so demanding, it’s tempting to forgo the seemingly unimportant stuff, and get going with the “real” stuff – like work and all that the day throws…

5 Ways to Stop Procrastinating

Note: This post first appeared in 2019 but has been updated. Do you have an endless to-do list that never gets done? Maybe you don’t have that many things to do, but they still don’t get done. Are you a procrastinator, forever transferring things from today’s to-do list to tomorrow’s? How you can overcome procrastination and turn your ‘undone’ list into a ‘done’ one? Before we answer that question, here are some things people procrastinate about the most: The role of dopamine in getting things done Before we get into how to help yourself…

10 Best Planning Tips to Increase Productivity

One of my biggest challenges as a SAHM was the frustration of not getting stuff done that I wanted to get done. I didn’t realise that being productive has a lot to do with planning. I was never taught to plan and didn’t even consider it necessary. I just lived. I allowed life to happen to me. The result was that my feelings or crises dictated my life, which led to a lot of stress and overwhelm, which led to irritation, which led to yelling at my kids, which led to guilt. Sounds like chaos. Yup. It…

The Importance of Small, Daily Habits

Note: This post was first published in March 2020 and has been updated. We all have at least one big goal in life – it may be making lots of money, buying a house, getting married, traveling overseas, becoming a famous YouTuber, raising great kids, or having the best marriage. While it’s great to have goals, we often don’t achieve them. Why is that? Because we focus on the goal instead of what will get us to the goal. We forget about the small, daily actions that move us toward buying the house, getting married, or raising great kids…

10 Ways to Increase Productivity at Home

Do you feel like you are always chasing your tail, never able to get your to-do list done? Do you feel overwhelmed most of the time? Your attention is pulled in so many directions and you have a lot of stuff going around in your head. You may feel like you’re drowning and like you’re failing as a mother. Your chaos is next level. How can you regain your sanity and eliminate chaos, stress, and overwhelm? How to eliminate chaos and increase productivity Being a stay at home mom can be chaotic because you don’t have…

How to Prioritise your Life

We all have multiple relationships and tasks to manage and at times it can feel overwhelming trying to meet the demands of life. Social media bombards us with things we “should” be doing. We get distracted with “bling” that brings no long-term results, and our most important people and tasks get the dregs of our time and energy. The pace we live at demands that we prioritise or the most important things will be neglected.   Prioritising means valuing one task or aspect of your life over another. It means to prefer, to give precedence to something. The Bible…

10 Things You Can Do to Leave Past Mistakes Behind

Note: This post first appeared in 2018 but has been updated. When I was 18 I did something that I’ve often regretted.  It was totally out of character for me and every time I think of it I feel shame.  I’ve prayed for forgiveness many times but it still haunts me.  I wish I could go back and change what I did but I can’t. Can you relate? You want to forget your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on but it’s hard. Maybe you’re divorced.  Maybe you were sexually promiscuous before…

How to Stop Emotional Eating

Note: This post was originally published in 2018 but has been updated. Are you an emotional eater? Do you have a love/hate relationship with food? Do you eat when you aren’t hungry? Are you obsessed with food? Maybe you’re discouraged because you’re just not managing to control your eating and your scale is telling you so. What is emotional eating? A simple definition of emotional eating is eating when you don’t need to or are not hungry. You eat when you are angry, upset, lonely, or stressed. Why do you eat for emotional reasons? Because…

How your Childhood Affects your Parenting

My sobbing three year old son stood by the bed.  “You must hug me; I can’t hug myself.” And I was frozen inside. Unable to offer comfort until my husband pushed me towards the little boy and told me to. What made me cold and unfeeling? Why could I not offer comfort? None of us wake up in the morning intending to hurt our children. Yet we do.We neglect needs, say hurtful things, withhold comfort, or laugh when we shouldn’t. The hurts we inflict are often unintentional and our children are wounded…