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How to Deal with Tantrums

Note: This post was first published in 2017 but has been updated. Woah. Overnight your child mutated from a cute toddler into a fit-throwing monster, as volatile as the Middle East. You’ve been told to ignore tantrums. Walk out the room.  Reason with your child.  Reassure them of your love and acceptance. And they’re still on the floor throwing a fit. You’re bewildered, amazed, and frustrated. Where did your sweet child go? Good news: You don’t have to tolerate tantrums. (Ducking the rotten tomatoes and counter-arguments…) I repeat:  You don’t…

To Spank or Not to Spank?

Note: This post was first published in 2017, but has been updated. Please, please, please, remember that discipline is never about venting your anger or irritation. Neither is it merely punishment for wrongdoing. It is about winning the heart of your child. Consequences are the means to this end, not the end themselves. “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.  Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” –Henry Cloud  This is the reason we give consequences. As a motivation for change. Whatever…

How To Discipline your Baby or Toddler

Note: This post first appeared in 2017 but has been updated. The first three to seven years are the formative years in a child’s life.  During this time you are building a foundation for the character of your child. Your child will not be able to reason until around age seven.  This means your focus should not be on reasoning with your child, but training your child. A child below the age of reason does not choose to obey because they love Mommy or because the Bible says they should.  They choose to obey because they…

Ten Things You Need To Discipline Well

NOTE: This post was originally published in 2017. What image does the word “Discipline” bring to your mind? Spanking, the naughty corner, scolding? Here is what most of us think: Discipline = Punishment. And most of what is called discipline is punishment. But good discipline is more than punishment.  It’s about prevention rather than cure. The purpose of discipline True discipline is about teaching your children to be self-controlled, to obey you, and to show respect for authority – yours and God’s. It’s about teaching them to surrender their hearts to God. True discipline reaches children’s…

18 Ways to Discipline Your Child Without Spanking

NOTE: This article was first published on January 4, 2017, but has been updated. There are many reasons parents avoid discipline: It doesn’t seem to work. It’s unpleasant. It’s easier to let the kid have its way. They feel guilty when the child accuses them of being mean. It doesn’t feel good. After all, who wants to make their kids cry? Sometimes we avoid it because of the way our parents disciplined us – harshly or not at all. Maybe the problem wasn’t the correction but how&nbsp…

How to Teach Your Kids to Work

Note: This post has been updated and was first published on October 4, 2017. I once looked after a friend’s two boys for a day. We headed out to the garden to throw out the compost and cover it up with a spade. I gave them a small spade because they were only 3 and 6 at the time. They handled the spade like pro’s and said, “We use a bigger spade than this at home.” I was impressed… The Bible says, “It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth…

83 Things your Kids should know before they Leave Home

Note: this post was originally published on December 6, 2017, but has been updated. What life skills do your kids have? Do you know which ones they don’t have? Some things can make a huge difference in life – like getting that job or not, improving a relationship, or saving money because you can do it yourself. Here is a list of skills to guide you in preparing your kids for life – these are things they should know before they leave home: People Skills How to start a conversation with a stranger Healthy boundaries in relationships – not allowing yourself…

12 Reasons to Give Your Kids Chores

Tackling chores is not at the top of my favourite-things-to-do list. I’m pretty sure it’s not at the top of any kid’s list either. While researching this topic I read an article by a mother who does not give her kids chores because she wants them to have a happy childhood. Her reasoning is that life is going to be full of chores once they reach adulthood and why should her kids endure the hardship of chores before then? Is this mom doing a good thing by not expecting her kids to do chores…

How to Deal with a Rebellious Teenager

So your child is now a teenager and you’re noticing some rebellion. They tend to back chat you, spend more time alone, are embarrassed by you, argue more with you and generally resist your authority. What happened to your pleasant pre-adolescent? How can you navigate these turbulent teen years? How do you deal with a rebellious teenager? What makes a teenager rebellious? It’s a biblical principle that we reap what we sow. And the teen years are the reaping years. Generally speaking, teenage rebellion is a reaction to bad parenting. Ouch. I know that hurts. It’s…