To start off the new year we’ve put together some of the best marriage tips that we have learned over the last 29 years. Here’s to having the marriage you always dreamed of! Pray together every day. Praying is one of the most intimate things you can do with your spouse and it will draw you closer to each other. 2. Play together. Bring back the fun! Playing together will bond you and lighten the load of doing life together. 3. Hug and kiss (like you mean it) every day. Nothing worse than that boring old peck on…
A few weeks ago I wrote a post about types of femininity to avoid if you want to change a man. One type is seductive femininity and I used Bathsheba as an example. Since then I’ve been thinking about David and Bathsheba quite a bit and I think I, along with others, haven’t been fair to Bathsheba. Growing up in church, I received the impression that Bathsheba was to blame for David’s sin. In fact, David is often portrayed as the victim of Bathsheba’s indiscreet bathing on her roof. Because she exposed herself by bathing on…
A lady once asked us how to get her husband to come to church with her. After a long discussion, we discovered that she had told him, “We both know that I am better than you because I go to church and you don’t.” Is it any wonder her husband wasn’t interested in joining her in spiritual exercises?! Appearing spiritually superior is clearly not the way to get your spouse interested in spiritual intimacy, but what can you do? Assuming you are already praying for your spouse, here are six things to do: Acknowledge that you cannot change…
Why should you pray about your physical relationship with your spouse? Because it’s under attack. The devil knows that sexual intimacy bonds a couple and represents the love and passion God has for us. And He hates that. Married couples need to counter Satan’s attacks on their intimacy by praying for it. Including God in our intimacy through prayer brings His blessing. (I’ve written here about God in the Bedroom – Connecting God and Sex.) One specific blessing of praying over our sexual relationship is that it will keep it pure. But, pure doesn’t mean boring…
If you want to grow as a Christian, spending time with God should be a priority. But, having consistent devotional time is challenging. Life is demanding and time with God often gets neglected. Maybe you’ve tried for a week or two, or even a month, to spend consistent time with God, but it fizzles out. How do you get it to stick? How do you get to have consistent devotional time? Spending consistent time with God is not dependent on feelings, but on habit. Yes, habit. And habits take time to develop. They are formed by…
There’s a lot of talk about toxic masculinity these days, but no mention of toxic femininity. Women often resort to toxic femininity when they are trying to change men, but, because selfishness is the motivation for changing men, it only makes the problem worse, and leads men into greater weakness. How does it lead them to weakness? Because women have power. Far more than they realise. The right use of a woman’s power influences men toward strength, and the wrong use influences men toward weakness. So, let’s look at the 4 types of toxic femininity women should…
Years ago, when I was in the thick of doing life with my kids, another parent told me that letting your kids go is the hardest part of parenting, because you can’t control their choices anymore. That’s true. And trying to hang on to control only messes things up. But it’s easier said than done to release our kids and allow them to be individuals that think and decide for themselves. We want guarantees. We want our kids to make the choices we would make. But children are not robots that we program. They are…
Communication is the lifeblood of relationship. Including the relationship with your teenager. The more your teenager feels understood and accepted, the better your relationship will be. The trick is to figure out how to get your teen to open up to you. Up to now, your preadolescent may have been open and shared all sorts of things with you, but once kids reach the teen years getting them to talk can be challenging. Why is it important that you still talk with your teen? Because teenagers are just like everyone else – they want to be heard, understood and accepted…
Does the thought of God in the bedroom make you feel uneasy? Like some who believe God created the earth and then left it to its own devices, we think that God made sex and then backed out, having nothing more to do with ‘it’. Why is it difficult to put God and sex together? Because the world has claimed it. And it portrays its view everywhere without shame. Our culture has smeared our view of sex with 50 shades of sludge, and God’s ideal for sex has been so obscured, we don’t even know what it should…