Self-esteem is the way we think about ourselves and the value we place on ourselves. When we have healthy self-esteem we tend to feel positive about ourselves and life in general, and we’re better able to deal with life’s ups and downs. When our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a negative light and feel less able to take on life’s challenges. Low self-esteem often stems from experiences in childhood that lead us to believe negative things about ourselves. These experiences could be things like: Being bullied…
In a world where social media rules, families are losing touch with each other. The only way to counteract the erosion of the family unit is to be intentional about spending time together, talking, having fun, learning together. Why have quality family time? If children don’t find companionship and sympathy in their parents and in their home, they will look to other sources for these needs. As parents, you need to be companions for your children, winning their love and affection, so you can counteract the influences they are bombarded with daily. Benefits of quality family time As…
I received a message from a young woman asking if it’s wrong for her to want her husband to do everything with her. She believes that a young couple should be together as much as they can, and wants to do everything with her husband – even if he just keeps her company while she does stuff. But her husband doesn’t agree. He’s tired when he gets home from work and doesn’t want to follow her around while she does stuff. Her argument is that after work is the only time they get to see each…
Note: This post contains affiliate links. The media has led women to believe that if we don’t function sexually like a man then there’s something wrong with us. Movies portray women as always eager for sex and instantly aroused, and because we don’t experience sexuality that way, we may assume that we are just not attracted to our husbands or there is something wrong with us. Wrong! Women (and their husbands) need to learn how their sexuality works. Note: I’m assuming that you are not in an abusive relationship or that one of you…
Note: This post was first published on November 20, 2019, but has been updated. Your kids are squabbling. AGAIN! You’re frustrated, overwhelmed and desperate. The thought of leaving home yourself or selling your kids on E-Bay has crossed your mind. (Did you know that in 1915 U.S. parents could mail their kids via the postal service? They put the stamps on the kid’s clothes and the mailman delivered them!) But seriously, sibling rivalry is exhausting! You really want your kids to have a warm close relationship that they will carry with them into their adult years…
Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed by your cluttered home? What about your emotions? Your life? Clutter is bad for your brain and bad for your health! It can make you feel stressed, anxious, and depressed. The visual distraction of clutter increases cognitive overload (fills up your mind space so you can’t think clearly). I never realised the impact clutter was having on me until I started decluttering. I immediately felt my mental health improve! What happens when you declutter your life? Researchers have found that clearing clutter from the home and work environment resulted in a…
Why is it important to keep growing as a Christian? Because if you aren’t growing, you’re dying, retrogressing, going backward. And if you’re retrogressing you will lose the blessings, the peace, the comfort, the wisdom and satisfaction that comes from knowing God and His ways. So how should a Christian grow? The secret to Christian growth Your spiritual life is nourished by your invisible union with Christ. Just like a plant gains it’s nourishment from its roots. I once got a few slips of basil bush from a friend. I planted one in my garden…
Brenda and I went to school together and I attended her wedding way back when. She glowed with happiness as people pinned money to her wedding gown at the reception. It all looked so perfect, but I didn’t know she’d be stuck in an abusive relationship for years. Brenda stayed stuck because she felt unworthy and like the abuse was her fault. She forgave and forgot countless times, hoping things would get better. They didn’t. Her husband was addicted to pornography. Brenda broke the videos when she found them. He watched porn at work or other people…
Note: This post was first published in 2017, but has been updated. Please, please, please, remember that discipline is never about venting your anger or irritation. Neither is it merely punishment for wrongdoing. It is about winning the heart of your child. Consequences are the means to this end, not the end themselves. “We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.” –Henry Cloud This is the reason we give consequences. As a motivation for change. Whatever…