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7 Ways to Help your Kids Use Social Media & the Internet Wisely

The world has changed a lot in the last 10 years. Our kids are being raised with unprecedented access to technology. If your kids have a smartphone, they carry the entire internet in their back pocket with all its knowledge and information, but also its pornography, cyberbullying, and creepy strangers.   Do you know what your kids are doing online? It’s almost a guarantee that you don’t know half of what your child is being exposed to – either on their own technology, or that of their friends. Most kids aren’t being exposed to porn for the first…

How to Raise Strong Kids in a World that’s Against Them

Today I am disturbed. This week I’ve seen some awful things. The devil has an agenda for our kids, and it’s evil. Read here and here to see how the world is objectifying and sexualising children. (These articles are already 1 and 2 years old). I’m reluctant to share these because I prefer to focus on purity and beauty, but maybe you need a wake-up call. How do we protect our kids yet raise them to live in an evil world that is opposed to everything good and pure?   In a world that presses its…

How to Take a Break from your Kids without Leaving Them

Do you ever feel tired of being a mom, and wish you could just “check out” and have a break? Do you feel guilty feeling that you want some alone time, away from your kids, without responsibilities? Let’s face it, “Momming” is a demanding job. It’s 24/7/365. There are no weekends. No public holidays. Even when your husband takes over for a bit, your mind is still engaged with your kids. You may be in another room, but you’re still wondering, why is he allowing them to make so much noise? or why isn’t…

Help! My Child has Seen Porn! What do I do Now?

These days there is so much porn online it’s almost easier for a child to stumble across it than to search for it on purpose. If your child has any access to technology – at home, at school, a friend – they are going to see porn. Not if. When. It has a way of finding kids, and often, after an accidental encounter, they begin looking for it intentionally. That is the nature of porn. Our job as parents is to try and delay the exposure as long as possible and prepare our kids for it. Finding out that your child…

How to Help Kids Process Strong Emotions Without Shutting them Down

Is it wrong for Christians to have strong negative emotions? Because the Bible speaks against anger, hatred and other strong emotions, we often cover them with a veneer of cheerful Christianity while they churn beneath the surface like Mount Etna waiting to erupt. While I believe throwing tantrums is not a healthy way for a child to express emotion, does that mean they should not be allowed to express emotion at all?  (Read about tantrums here) Shutting down strong emotions may seem like a quick solution, but it’s counterproductive. What’s wrong with not allowing kids to express…

5 Parenting Mistakes to Stop Doing Today

No matter how conscientious we are as parents, we all make blunders from time to time – like giving consequences for something our child didn’t do. (Yup, got that T-shirt.) We may feel awful about occasional slip-ups like this, but they are less serious than the mistakes we repeat consistently. Here are some you may be doing without realising it: 1. Repeating instructions and making threats. Do your kids only obey once your voice raises a notch, your eyes narrow, and you use their full name? If so, you’re probably guilty of repeating instructions and making threats…

Did God’s Perfect Parenting Plan go Wrong?

Years ago, when I was in the thick of doing life with my kids, another parent told me that letting your kids go is the hardest part of parenting, because you can’t control their choices anymore.    That’s true. And trying to hang on to control only messes things up. But it’s easier said than done to release our kids and allow them to be individuals that think and decide for themselves. We want guarantees. We want our kids to make the choices we would make. But children are not robots that we program. They are…

3 Ways to Get Your Teenager to Talk to You

Communication is the lifeblood of relationship. Including the relationship with your teenager. The more your teenager feels understood and accepted, the better your relationship will be. The trick is to figure out how to get your teen to open up to you. Up to now, your preadolescent may have been open and shared all sorts of things with you, but once kids reach the teen years getting them to talk can be challenging.   Why is it important that you still talk with your teen? Because teenagers are just like everyone else – they want to be heard, understood and accepted…

10 Ways to Make Sex Happen When You Have Kids

Let’s face it, having kids is demanding – physically and emotionally. This, together with all the other pressures of life, puts pressure on your marriage. And the first thing to suffer is your sex life. How do you keep this part of your relationship alive when you are too tired, too busy, too stressed? By being intentional. You have to find ways to make sex happen, or it won’t. Here are some ways you can be intentional about your sexual relationship as a couple: 1.Schedule sex. While this may sound boring and lacking spontaneity, if you don’t…