Note: This post was first published in March 2020 and has been updated.
We all have at least one big goal in life – it may be making lots of money, buying a house, getting married, traveling overseas, becoming a famous YouTuber, raising great kids, or having the best marriage.
While it’s great to have goals, we often don’t achieve them.
Why is that?
Because we focus on the goal instead of what will get us to the goal.
We forget about the small, daily actions that move us toward buying the house, getting married, or raising great kids.
We underrate small things because, well, they’re small, and they don’t produce big results right away.
The truth is, success in life depends on the repetition of small actions.
Now, I get you. Small things often feel like a waste of time, but are they really?
In his book Atomic Habits, James Clear drives home the importance of small actions and small steps forward using the example of an ice cube. Picture said ice cube on the table. The temperature in the room is below freezing. Slowly the room begins to warm up, but the ice cube doesn’t melt. It gets to -1 degrees and still the ice cube hasn’t melted.
And then, as the room hits 0 degrees, the ice begins to melt. Amazing!
Now, because the ice cube begins to melt at 0 degrees Celsius (apologies to all my Fahrenheit friends – that’s 32 degrees btw), does that mean that all the warming up before the temperature got to 0 was a waste? No. Without it the ice cube would never melt. All of that “work” was not wasted. It was stored.
All the action happens at 0 degrees.
It’s the same with small, daily actions. Even though we don’t see massive results, our actions are being stored, and one day we will see results.
“When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that last blow that did it – but all that had gone before.” Jacob Riis
The Bible gives us a simple answer: “He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much.” Luke 16:10
You’ll only be as good in the big things as you are in the little things.
Our problem is we want overnight success.
We want our homes to be clutter-free without any effort.
We want our relationships to be healthy without doing the work of resolving conflicts, communicating, and meeting each other’s needs.
We want to get that great promotion without faithfully performing the duties that lie right before us.
But that’s not how success happens. It “is the product of daily habits – not once-in-a-lifetime transformations.” [i]
To be honest, life is made up of the mundane. The daily repetition of things that seem unimportant.
Massive success doesn’t require massive action. It requires small, daily improvements.
Someone once gave me good advice that went somethings like this: “Do the work that lies nearest. Pay attention to what lies within your reach – no matter how humble it is. Put your mind and heart into doing that thing and you will see results if you persevere.”
What you are doing today matters more than where you want to be.
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So, let me ask you this:
Where are your daily actions and habits leading you? Are they leading you to where you want to be, the kind of person you want to be?
‘You should be far more concerned with your current trajectory than with your current results.” [ii]
Because your trajectory will determine your results. Your small habits today are determining what you will be tomorrow.
We get stuck because there is a delay between what we do now and what we get later. But the truth is, we get what we repeat.
Our outcomes are a delayed result of our habits:
How can you start “repeating” better?
Aim for excellence in small things, for 1% improvements daily. Look for ways to be more faithful, to do a better job in the small things.
Here’s a list of small things to get you started:
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“Changes that seem small and unimportant at first will compound into remarkable results if you’re willing to stick with them for years.”[iii]
Small actions, repeated, bring big results. If you exercise today, you won’t build stronger muscles by tomorrow, but if you persevere you will see your muscles develop.
Daily work in the garden produces a harvest. Small attentions to your marriage creates a solid relationship over time. Giving consequences when your kids disobey will create obedient children in time.
You get what you repeat.
Instead of worrying about big goals, focus on the small things you can do today that will put you on the path toward your goals.
small things are you neglecting? What do you need to start doing today?
[i] James Clear, Atomic Habits, 18
[iii] James Clear, Atomic Habits, 7