How to Prioritise your Life

We all have multiple relationships and tasks to manage and at times it can feel overwhelming trying to meet the demands of life. Social media bombards us with things we “should” be doing. We get distracted with “bling” that brings no long-term results, and our most important people and tasks get the dregs of our time and energy. The pace we live at demands that we prioritise or the most important things will be neglected.   Prioritising means valuing one task or aspect of your life over another. It means to prefer, to give precedence to something. The Bible…

What To Do If Your Husband Is Not Leading Your Family Spiritually

Note: This post was first published in 2017, but has been updated. She sat across the table from us with tears flowing as she shared how desperately she wanted her husband to lead their family spiritually.  It hurt that he hadn’t. A woman needs her man to lead his family spiritually.  If he doesn’t, the burden of the spiritual welfare of the family lands on his wife and it’s heavy. The Bible says, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the…

What To Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Respect You

Note: This post was first published on January 10, 2018 but has been updated. Today we’re talking about respect for a wife.  What should you do when your husband doesn’t show respect for you as a person or for your role as wife and mother in the home?  Here’s what a wife shared with me: I feel my husband does not respect my position as a wife.  Not only do we have different beliefs, but the things we value are very different which causes friction and I feel like my decisions are not respected. My decision…

One Common Reason Wives are Unhappy in Marriage

I hear from women all the time. They tell me about why they are unhappy in marriage. The one common reason that wives are unhappy in marriage is that their emotional needs are not met. Here’s a composite of what I hear: “I long to have my emotional needs met but whenever I talk to my husband about my needs he gets very upset. He blames me and tells me I’m breaking him down. My husband won’t talk to me or listen. I feel so disconnected from him. When I am anxious my husband tells me to…

10 Things You Can Do to Leave Past Mistakes Behind

Note: This post first appeared in 2018 but has been updated. When I was 18 I did something that I’ve often regretted.  It was totally out of character for me and every time I think of it I feel shame.  I’ve prayed for forgiveness many times but it still haunts me.  I wish I could go back and change what I did but I can’t. Can you relate? You want to forget your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on but it’s hard. Maybe you’re divorced.  Maybe you were sexually promiscuous before…

8 Ways to Help your Husband be More Romantic

Note: This post first appeared in 2020 but has been updated. Do you have a logical, practical husband, but he lacks a little in the romance department? Have you given up all hope of ever having romance in your marriage? If this is you, I’m here to tell you there’s hope! Picture this: you feel in love with your husband (and he with you), you enjoy being together, and you have chemistry… Far fetched? Not at all. Only for newly-weds? Nope. Let’s jump right into exploring how you can help your husband be more romantic. But…

How to Stop Emotional Eating

Note: This post was originally published in 2018 but has been updated. Are you an emotional eater? Do you have a love/hate relationship with food? Do you eat when you aren’t hungry? Are you obsessed with food? Maybe you’re discouraged because you’re just not managing to control your eating and your scale is telling you so. What is emotional eating? A simple definition of emotional eating is eating when you don’t need to or are not hungry. You eat when you are angry, upset, lonely, or stressed. Why do you eat for emotional reasons? Because…

6 Ways to Stop being an Angry Parent

Note: this post first appeared in 2020, but has been updated. Do you keep losing it with your kids? Are your frustration and irritation levels through the roof? Are you horribly impatient? If you answered yes to any of these, welcome to my party! Feeling irritated, frustrated, and impatient with my kids was the story of my life until I figured out that the problem wasn’t so much my children as it was *me*. What I didn’t realise was that most of the time my kids were reacting to my mood, attitude, and treatment of them. When I…

10 Ways to Rekindle a Dull Marriage

Note: This post first appeared in 2017 but has had a major overhaul. 🙂 Is your marriage stalled? Lifeless? Do you fear it’s even dying or dead? How can you rekindle your marriage? Before you try and figure out what to do about your dull marriage, let’s look at the signs of a failing marriage. What are the signs of a failing marriage? Always criticising each other Dull, boring sex, or none at all Arguments followed by stiff silence You argue about the same thing over and over You don’t enjoy being together You don…